If you want it bad enough, you?ll get it!
By C. Lee Snow
Life doesn?t always work out the way we plan. Yet somehow we seem to end up where we were meant to be. It may take some of us longer than others to realize our place and purpose in the world. It?s discovering what you love that is most important. If you are good at it and find it rewarding, great. If you can make a living from it, even better.
Dr. Deepa Takhar was the first born child to strong and loving parents in Coventry, England. She was taught and encouraged by them to pursue her dreams. At the age of thirteen, she knew she wanted to be a doctor. At seventeen, she was enrolled in medical school and at the tender age of twenty-two, she had turned that dream into reality.
After practising medicine and getting herself established for a few years, Deepa married at the age of twenty-nine. By the end of the year, the first of her two children was born. She also relocated to Saskatchewan, Canada to pursue opportunities which would allow her more control over her medical practice. While living in western Canada, Deepa held the position of Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of Saskatchewan. She also operated a family practice as well as a walk in clinic.
Deepa?s professional career was certainly on the fast moving track to success, but at home she knew things were starting to unravel. Her husband had not yet found a position in his chosen field. Her prearranged marriage (quite common in many cultures) was taking a turn for the worse. Not only as a wife but also as a trained doctor, she was able to recognize the signs her husband was exhibiting. She experienced episodes of his controlling behaviour, alcoholism, frustration and low self-esteem. She suffered with accusations and slanderous remarks.
Knowing that she was being mentally, emotionally and verbally abused, something had to be done. With one small child and another on the way, she knew she had to make a plan to remove herself and her children from the unhealthy environment.
She had already overcome the challenges and changes that come with adapting to a new country by making friends quickly with her patients and colleagues. She had people she could trust and talk to. Being an established doctor, she didn?t experience the financial issues that many newcomers do.
One of Deepa?s biggest challenges, however, was fear. She had worked so incredibly hard to achieve everything she?d built and now it was all in jeopardy. She refused to believe in anything other than a positive outcome. Her dream for herself and her children would happen whether it took months or years. There was no giving up. She utilized child care services or took the children herself to keep them away from the negative environment. With Deepa still needing to put in long hours, housekeeping services were sometimes used.
She overcame a lot of her issues by talking to co-workers and patients who?d become friends. By receiving their feedback, she knew she was not alone. People would help her and if they couldn?t, they?d advise her of someone who could. Deepa credits many with helping her, including the police, justice department and Canada?s legal system. She also speaks highly of the premier of Saskatchewan who signed her immigration papers so she could stay in Canada. Her husband did not meet the requirements for immigration status.
Six and a half years ago, Deepa relocated her family to Ontario after obtaining her credentials for cosmetic dermatology. With her recruitment of five other physicians, they created the Canamera Family Health Network in Cambridge. She also has a cosmetic clinic in the same facility.
Some of Dr. Takhar?s future goals are to grow her medical practice. She would eventually like to expand her cosmetic clinic by bringing in the best professionals to add to her already extensive list of services. To top it all off, she plans to acquire her M.B.A. and no doubt she will.
Today Deepa is busy loving and raising her two children. She is chasing her own dreams while helping them build theirs. She is stronger and braver since her ordeal. She is energetic, motivated and happy. She is proof that if you want it bad enough, nothing can stand in your way of getting it.
C. Lee Snow is a writer living in the village of Ayr, who finds tremendous satisfaction creating motivational articles which she hopes will inspire readers to ?shoot for the stars?.